He Left His Wife For Me. Now What?

An affair partner had already moved on when her married ex finally returned.

Dear Lauren,

My affair partner left his wife for me after I was in a new relationship.

Now what ?

Sincerely,
Tiffany

Timing is so much of life. Isn’t it? And when it comes to affairs, it’s almost everything. Timing is one of an affair’s biggest pain points, especially for affair partners who feel like they’ve been perhaps waiting against all odds.

We all have moments where we ask “now what?” but this question can have such gravity for affair partners who feel like the relationship they want is hanging by a thread, as it does when we commit to someone who isn’t available. An affair partner often struggles to see themself as independent being, with their own needs and life goals. All too often, they become subsumed by the dynamics of the affair relationship. The confusion and uncertainty Tiffany is facing is exactly why I wrote Get to the Truth About Being an Affair Partner. So many affair partners struggle to hold on to themselves as they remain in an affair. Getting honest with ourselves is always the first step.

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Now, let’s dive in to help Tiffany answer “now what?”