I don't think my spouse can love me the way I need to be loved. Now what?
A letter writer's affair, and her subsequent realizations, makes her wonder where it leaves her.
Dear Lauren,
I’ve been married for 18 years and have two teens. My marriage seemed okay until I cheated a year ago.
It’s something I never even thought about. Now, I’ve been having an affair for four months. This affair has helped me realize that my husband has been emotionally unavailable and I have not felt loved by him for years.
I’ve talked to him about this and he hasn’t tried to change, and seems to think I would never leave. I feel bad for cheating and think he deserves better. However, I don’t think he can love me the way I need to be loved.
Does cheating mean the relationship is over? Where do I start?
Sincerely,
Unmet Needs
Dear Unmet,
Here is my video message for you about where I believe your marriage is, and below it I outline where I believe you should focus as you move forward.
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