My Husband's Leaving For His Affair Partner, and I Hope It Doesn't Work Out.

A betrayed spouse wonders how to manage her revenge fantasies toward her husband and his new life.

Dear Lauren,

My husband of twelve years has recently left me for a woman he was having an emotional affair with at work. For weeks he denied it but in my gut, I knew something was going on. He finally admitted they were ‘friends.’ I was determined to save our marriage but he wouldn’t give up contact with her. So I had to let him go.

He now says they are in love and he is moving an hour away from me and our young children to be with her. How can I even begin to get over this and stop secretly hoping it won’t last for him. Please help. Thank you!

Sincerely,

S

Revenge fantasies. KARMA. Betrayal brings it all.

In this week’s letter, S reveals how rage and anger of infidelity can take over — turning you into your worst version as a result of someone else’s behaviors.

In my coaching this week, you’ll hear my thoughts on how to direct those delicious revenge fantasies so that you can focus on the only thing you do have control over… yourself, and your own life. In life after betrayal, it’s not about denying the pain or pretending that the betrayal was okay, but rather, acknowledging these feelings and thoughts, then shifting your energy back to yourself so you can reclaim your true power.

This coaching session is for anyone who has wished the worst for their unfaithful spouse, but who is wondering how to stop sitting in that pain so they can finally start to heal. Inside this video, you’ll learn how to shift your mindset from “Why is this happening to me?” to “How is this happening for me?”

If you’re a betrayed spouse who wants to deepen your healing with a supportive and like-minded community, I invite you to join THRIVE, a space built for turning the betrayal into personal transformation. If you’re the unfaithful, and you want to take matters into your own hands so you can handle your choices better, that’s why I recently formed the support community ALIGN, which is open for early membership.

Thank you for your paid subscription to Letters to Lauren — it makes this work possible every week. There’s so much power in realizing you’re not alone when it comes to infidelity. Now, let’s help S channel her rage, so she can find the personal freedom she truly deserves.