My Married Affair Partner Ghosted Me
A single affair partner looks for answers after being left in silence.
Dear Lauren,
I am the single affair partner. My partner was acting like my boyfriend for two years, celebrating holidays together, going on dates, having couple arguments, supporting each other when it was needed. On my birthday, we ended up having a giant fight. My married affair partner hasn’t spoken to me since. It’s been almost three weeks. He will not respond to any message, or anything I do. I have been cripplingly depressed over this, and it feels like it’s getting worse. Is simply ghosting a normal response by the married affair partner when things get rocky?
Sincerely,
Ghosted
Dear Ghosted,
Ghosting is abandonment. Ghosting is a sign of emotional immaturity, an inability to handle your thoughts and feelings in a way that expresses them appropriately to another person in order to communicate yourself. Ghosting is a reflection of the person who ghosts and their avoidance. It is not a reflection of you.
That being said, ghosting does happen in affairs. It’s painful to live with no explanation of the person’s sudden absence from your life, especially after two years of a relationship. Of course you’d feel utterly bereft.
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