My Married Partner Wants Me Back.

A single affair partner wonders how to handle the return of her married man.

This week, Tiffany writes:

“Dear Lauren,

I recently ended my relationship with a married person and started a new relationship, but now the married person is telling me they want me back. What should I do?”

Sincerely,
Tiffany

Tiffany's letter might be short, but there are big themes in it that everyone can benefit from hearing.

My first response to Tiffany is to answer a question with a question… Tiffany, what do YOU want to do?”

“What do you want to do?” is the ultimate question that’s faced by everyone whose lives have been touched by an affair. Because of the complex nature of an affair and its impact on those involved and affected, answering the question “what do I really want?” can feel daunting. I’ll help Tiffany (and you) break this simple but paralyzing question down.

As I cover in the area for paid subscribers below, it doesn’t matter if you are an unfaithful partner, a married or single affair partner, a betrayed spouse, everyone has to answer that question “What do YOU want to do?” Answering it requires us to look at the evidence available, and within ourselves.

I hope you will become a paid subscriber so that you can get the most out of every weekly letter. Your paid subscription is a vital part of allowing us to do this work that serves so many, and helps combat this widespread experience that’s shrouded in so much stigma, shame, and silence.